of the forced porn vrat

The ban on pornography has finally been lifted following all the criticism. While the whole country was divided and having heated arguments healthy discussions on the subject, I read countless opinions that validated the government’s decision to ban porn; some of these left me particularly enlightened.

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People who defend porn must all be aspiring to join the industry.

Now, like you may know already, I do have some solid reservations about porn. Porn glamorizes sex so much that teenagers seem to think it’s the way sex is done. Also, for people who watch porn in HD, real sex becomes disappointing, because it just doesn’t get as exotic as it looks in a porn video. Some people cross over to the dark side and marriages break up (I know a couple who divorced because the wife’s “fantasies” were too disturbing for the man). And then there is the whole question of growing body-image issues and women bleaching their vaginas  to look pink-as-a-rose hot. *shudder*

That being said, children who grow up (and I mean much before you attain teenage or understand the concept of sex) watching their mothers be abused and treated like slaves, they turn out to be a person who either (a) thinks that men own women and can treat them as they like, or (b) are determined to ensure that the women in their lives never have to go through this. (I can say this with so much confidence because I have both types of people in my family.)

Similarly, when you watch a video (as an adult, because let’s face it, teenagers should be on a porn vrat until they cross over into adulthood)  that sexually dehumanizes women, you will (a) be turned on by it, or (b) be disgusted.

Your preference for “storylines” will depend upon who you became much before you attained teenage, which is why I think porn comes into the picture much later when it comes to respect for women.

Unequal marriages are just as evil as depraved porn – they both dehumanize and disrespect women.

I think I may have said this before somewhere on the internet (and gotten flak for it, too), but I actually think porn can actually help people learn a trick or two and help their partner understand what they like/dislike in bed. It has the potential to function a bit like a video tutorial in the absence of actual personal guidance on the subject. The possibilities are endless there. We just need to know how to approach it!

And that will come from being open about sex and intimacy; not from forbidding people from talking about it. IMHO, there is no other way to teach people the value and importance of consent than sex education. And I don’t mean the hushed, glossed over biology classes that we went through in school!

And no, I’m not joining the porn industry anytime soon.

Are you an aspiring porn star? Do you know one? What do you think about the recent ban on porn? 

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34 thoughts on “of the forced porn vrat”

  1. I think similar like you, Anawni. Most people simply mix up sex with love. Then sex gets disappointing over time. They need more and more kicks about it. That’s why they might get lost in porn. But they will never find fulfillment. To me the fulfillment is not about sex, it is about making love, the sacred celebration of the deepest way two spirits can merge with one another.

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  2. India banned porn? Hmm. Have to google that. Banning porn is unenforceable and only serves to drive up the price, remove the taxation and put it into the hands of criminals. There are limits on it here but it is a full time battle for many police and officials keeping it under control. Sex with animals, underaged children, etc are illegal not only the act but also the depiction of it. There are black markets that trade in such porn and the police have special departments that chase that on line and in real life. That said, for a normal citizen that type of porn is never seen. There are limits on where and how regular porn can be sold or displayed. Again, unless it is sought out, it is not apparent but the access to it is. Personally I don’t partake and seldom have in my life – a bit as a curious teen but it never interested me much.

    Perhaps it could be used as a learning tool although I find that it objectifies women a lot and reduces the act from a beautiful sharing to a competition of winning and power. That said, banning it is not realistic in my mind. When so many desire something, it is better controlled and taxed than banned.

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    1. I agree with you 100%, Paul. Taxing is better than banning, because people will still buy what they want, albeit ‘underground’. This will only lead to more exploitation. This is way worse than the original problem.

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  3. lol good questions. Am I aspiring to join porn industry? At this age, no. I should have started preparing young now the time is too late 😛 lol

    Well, there are too many debates for and against it just like prostitution. I just think, it depends on how your understanding about the subject is! As in it can be constructive and destructive. As mentioned in the last line, people need sex education more than anything first.

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    1. I am not anti-porn or pro-porn; just anti-bans. It sucks that the government think that they can regulate our personal lives! What this leads to is more illegal trafficking, and surely that isn’t good either. May as well let the industry be and regulate it and tax the shit out of people so they can’t afford to watch it!
      Just curious – isn’t there a whole genre in porn where they cast older, more ‘mature’ people?
      😉

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      1. Afaik, the govt didn’t ban porn. They banned child porn and since the Internet service providers couldn’t differentiate between sites that had child porn and usual porn they ended up banning the porn sites in whole. This is the little knowledge I had from reading some other blogs/news.
        Well if govt bans porn, what will they do in parliament to pass time? They won’t do that 😛
        Well to answer that question, there is all kinds of weird things in the world. You name it and it’s there, hence that should definitely be there. 😛

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        1. (LOL at the parliament reference! :D)
          I knew about the intention – just thought that the method was completely stupid. You can’t possibly ban ALL sites. New ones come up every day!
          I think they should just legalize porn and put a censor board in place, as in the case of the regular film industry. That way they can penalize sites that host “illegal” videos showcasing child sex and forced sex.

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  4. An aspiring porn star!? I think not! 😀 I understand the desire to protect people from these matters, but where do we draw the line? War films glamorize war and with the rare exception, does not show the savage nature of war. I think that it comes down to education and communication on the part of the family, and restraint from the film industry. I’m not convinced that it’s possible, but I think that the last thing that any free people need is more government intervention.

    Great post, Ana! I hope that you’re feeling good!

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    1. You may already know this, but Indians are not that open about sex.
      There have been cases where innocent videos made by couples and voyeuristic videos showing women changing/bathing have caused women to leave the country because of the stigma attached to nakedness and the shame associated with it.
      So I think that making it legal would probably be the first step, so actors can get paid for their work and the exploitation can stop.

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  5. While they’re at it, they should probably ban a lot more things :-/

    This doesn’t really serve any purpose. People who want to watch porn will always find ways.

    Aspiring porn star?!? It is men like these that really make my blood boil.

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    1. So true! Alcohol and cigarettes are detrimental to the health of human beings, but they will never be banned because the revenue they generate is so high! As for banning porn, it’s practically impossible. How do you stop millions of people from recording videos and circulating them among their respective circles?
      Oh, and I didn’t bother responding to the nutcase who thought I was joining the porn industry. Not worth my time!

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      1. Ana, I have watched porn with my husband on many occasions. If there is any indication of the woman being forced or unhappy with the situation, I would find that offensive. Also if there is any indication that the woman was drugged, that too would be offensive. I’m old enough to know that a lot of this behaviour is not real and in some cases down right unhealthy. I’ m also aware that often the camera has been turned off to change a position, put on a condom etc. For someone who has been married a long time it can be enjoyable, funny and even inspirational.
        Leslie

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        1. I agree with you, Leslie. Porn can be inspirational. Mister and I have often sat back with a porno and discussed newer possibilities – and it has only helped bring us closer as a couple. We have zero inhibitions discussing sex and I think that our (Indian) society could benefit from this kind of openness. But we’re mostly an exception. Most Indians I know will be okay watching raunchy “item numbers” with adult film stars gyrating in skimpy outfits on TV with our children in tow, but will go out of their way to judge women who admit to watching porn and enjoying it.

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  6. “Any woman who even discusses porn (let alone thinks it shouldn’t be banned) is automatically
    an aspiring porn star!” This thought process is reflected over and over again in many irrational comments. Complete breakdown of logic 🙂 Where do you even begin explaining, with such people. Maybe don’t even bother?

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  7. There are benefits for the women AND men in legalizing the Porn industry. It helps prevent the spread of HIV and other diseases because these “studios” are required to have regular testing and health checks. It also gives the “workers” legal re-course just as regular “film” workers do. There are cons of course, but at least there is a better chance for these people to not be exploited, which would definitely happen if it remains illegal. Just because it becomes illegal it doesn’t go away and if anything worse things would be made and would happen to these people. Especially those underage. Even with legalized Porn it is a problem, but is easier to monitor and go after those who exploit and break the law in using underage people.
    Porn has existed since man/woman could pick up a piece of charcoal or a chisel and it isn’t going to go away.
    I completely agree with age limits though and personally have found Porn to add a bit of spice now and then. There is a danger of addiction as there is with anything that provides a pleasure response. You have to be careful you don’t fall into the trap of preferring a fantasy over real life.
    And even in the good ole USA, though Porn is legal there is stigma attached to watching it. Your a pervert and goodness forbid a woman enjoy watching it. WHAT A TRAMP….whatever. So hypocritical.

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    1. “Porn has existed since man/woman could pick up a piece of charcoal or a chisel and it isn’t going to go away.”
      THIS. India has a whole heritage site dedicated to sex. Have you heard of the caves in Ajanta and Ellora? We wrote the bloody Kamasutra. And here we are, behaving like morons, going around banning things that go on in people’s bedrooms.

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  8. May be an aspiring porn writer whose dreams were destroyed the moment the ban was lifted. Was toggling with the idea of writing porn the moment it was banned to protest against it..hehe so no plan to join the industry. While I don’t endorse porn, I feel that banning is no solution and let people decide.

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  9. The problem is that there is no sex ed in conservative countries. The problem is that teenagers (and how exaclty do you plan to block them from accessing porn)get access to violent and depraved porn which is remarkably easy to view. This makes them believe that all women enjoy having that done to them and that is the norm.
    I am anti-porn. There is enough evidence that it is harmful to adults as well as teenagers. Actors in porn are overwhelmingly exploited and working in terrible situations. Porn addiction is worryingly common now with such easy access to it. The difference is in earlier times, it took time and effort to buy a porn video, put it in the DVD…it simply wasnt as easy to access as it is now. Honestly I think there are far more pertinent issues for people to address today and I don’t think a porn ban is at all a bad thing.

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