A 72-year old astrologer molested me on the 28th of December. And what did I do?
Nothing. I just got up and left.
When Mister came home, I told him what had happened. I feel so dirty, I said, alternating between rage and disgust. He said nothing, just hugged me tighter every time I came close to tearing up.
At the temple.
The doorbell rang, as if on cue. Ma entered, beaming.
How did it go?
Very well. Santhanam’s wife taught me how to do puja properly in the Ganesh temple…
… while he was busy molesting Ana.
Mom was shocked out of her wits. Mister told her what had happened. It’s my fault. I should never have left her alone with him.
No, it’s not your fault. He had no right to touch me.
We sat in silence for a while, and then I got up and declared I was going to confront him. They didn’t want me to, because of all the stress it would cause.
I won’t be able to live with myself if I let the bastard get away – and that is way worse than the stress confrontation would cause.
So we decided to confront him in front of his family – we took our neighbours (who are Santhanam’s old acquaintances) along for support.
I huffed and puffed my way up to the top floor, where he lives. We stormed into the house and demonstrated to his wife exactly what he had done, and asked her if she thought it was indeed an accupressure demo, and whether ok for him to do that. She sat there shaking her head in disbelief, while Santhanam smiled menacingly and told me that he was seventy two years old and at his age, his intention was obviously not to molest me – he had merely touched me as a “doctor” would.
My otherwise quiet neighbor spoke up. Actually, no male doctor touches women this way. They always bring in female nurses to do the examinations. In fact, even for women’s lung exams, they check from the back, not the front.
I was not happy with the non-aggressive, rational tone the neighbor had taken. Tell me this, you pervert, would you be ok if my husband, who is a certified Yoga instructor, touched your granddaughter exactly how you touched me?
Santhanam slapped his hands together in a mock apology and said – Ok, you are right and I am sorry. Now please go.
The dismissive manner in which he spoke infuriated me even more than the inappropriate touching.
We left, but not before I told him I wasn’t going to leave him alone.
You’re going to be really sorry you did this.
Can you believe that he actually stuck to his “accupressure” story? Would you actually touch a person in their private parts to demonstrate how pressure should be applied?
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I had a flute teacher who would ask permission to touch my diaphram (upper stomach) to demonstrate how to breath. There is no way that this fellow can put a respectable spin on what he did. However, I would let it go now Ana. You are close to your confinement and you need to build your strength for the delivery. Try to let it go. You have far more important things before you at the moment. Just concentrate on that lovely baby you will soon hold in your arms.
Oh man! The audacity of that person to claim it was acupressure. Even if it had been, no one actually touches your private parts to show you what needs to be done, they can just explain in words. The worst part is he didn’t seem apologetic at all. Try to look past it for now with the baby coming any moment now. But do make it a point to tell as many people as you can. People are not scared of being immoral but they are scared of their social status. So make sure EVERYONE knows what human crap he is.
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Yes, I can believe he stuck by his story. These perverts little monsters always do. Have you heard about the Bill Cosby story here, denigrating the FIFTY women who have come forward against him?
I could not stand to have anyone behave that way to me as during your initial session or in the aftermath. I so admire that you stood up for yourself, and I am so incredibly happy to know that your family stood with you two. Those have been two of the biggest issues to have to gain for girls and women within my ancestral culture.
I don’t know what you have in mind going forward, but I know you are smart enough to decide the value of whatever you decide your actions are going to be. You are an amazing woman, Ana…
What a creep he is! At the very least, I hope you scared him so he’ll never do it to anyone again.
Now this is what I think he deserve , Its good that you shared his address and name with us all , so that a word of mouth or net can spread about that pervert …I know you will take appropriate action against this men 🙂 And as for your condition ..take care dear 🙂 All the best 😀
I am so happy you did that.. Hugs to you dear… 🙂
Let me tell you one thing if this was one of the ladies on my house this pathetic person would have felt the acupressure of my hands and legs.. and possibly of everyone I know. .
Spread yhe word good you put on blog.
Take care of yourself
Wow! I understand that this “talk” was anything than satisfying for you. I totally get your anger and frustration. But at least many people now know about him and witnessed his behavoir. And…. even when his wife did not say a lot. You don’t know what happened after you left! It was very good that you confronted him. You told him clearly that he cannot just do what he want and gets aways with it!!! I would have exploded in that house with his behavior!!! So I get you completely!
Confrontation is for you. Speaking up is to demonstrate to yourself that you matter to you. If your goal is to gain control over another by getting them to make an internal state transfer you are leaving the power in their hands. You have done something courageous and I am glad you did. I hope you can let go his story of the situation and believe for yourself deep down that you do matter to you. That you are important to you. That you matter.
Also, i am so glad that your mister and family supported you in the confrontation. Very awesome that you all stood together.
I am very proud of you for going back there and confronting that bastard.
It is not okay to touch anyone’s private parts. It is not okay to touch anyone.
Hugs to you and take care of yourself..
I think it was a great thing that you went back with your family supporting you. He definitely was a pervert and in the wrong. He can use his “age” as an excuse or whatever, he was still wrong and in a position of trust that he betrayed. I am glad you are okay. But, for now you may need to let it go as you need to get as much rest and relaxation as you can. You are going to have a little one that is going to want all of your attention soon. 😀
I am so shocked it happened but glad you went back to confront him. Really old men take advantage of their status in our societies and act like pervs.
I’m very proud of you for going and confronting him, Ana! The nerve of the guy to equate his actions to a ‘doctor’s’. I’m equal parts angry and unsurprised. *hugs*