This moment, we own it!

Okay, I have some more news.

Last week, I was interviewed by Smart Indian Women. They asked me all sorts of questions, and to be honest, I was a teensy bit jittery. My palms were sweaty and my heart was beating really fast. I went blank for a couple of seconds. It was like my first interview all over again. Except that this one was via Google docs. I’m lousy at this stuff you know!

But now that it has been published, I’m feeling pretty darned good about myself. I almost sound intelligent! 😉

Of course you can read the interview where it was published, but if you’re just as lazy as me, maybe you want to just stay and read right here.

Tell me what you think!


Thanks for taking the time to chat with SIW. Tell us a little bit about yourself and your blog.     

Well, let’s see. I’m a 32 year-old twice-married-once-divorced Indian woman who writes anonymously. You might cross paths with me on the streets of Delhi; you may even know me personally, but you’ll never know who I really am, and that’s the point of my blog.

My story could be any woman’s story. My name is really not important, so I choose to stay Anawnimiss.

What makes your blog so unique and why should people read it?          

I’ve been told on several occasions that I write well, and that my stories are very relatable – that my struggles are experiences that other people have had but were afraid to talk about. People always say that the fact that I stepped up to the challenges life threw at me gives them some kind of hope.

But I think I also give them something to laugh about – I can be really funny sometimes. I take a serious topic based on my experiences, and then twist the written word in a way that is melodramatic and comic at the same time.

I think that may be the reason why people keep coming back and that’s why my blog works for them.

How often do you blog?              

I’m an obsessive-compulsive blogger. I have a funny experience, I blog about it. Something goes wrong, I have to write. I read something I like or dislike, and I have to put my thoughts out there in the blogging universe.

I’m pretty regular. There are variations in frequency, of course – sometimes you’ll see posts on a daily basis, and sometimes I write one post a week.

But I do check in every day and respond to every single comment.

What has been your most successful blog post to date and what was it about?

The most popular blog post I’ve written so far is called “of nasty things, like sex and masturbation”, where I write about how people need to stop being shy of talking about sex and masturbation.

A close second is “of religion”, which touches upon two really sore topics – Hindu-Muslim marriages and gender bias.

What do you find most challenging about blogging?     

While being anonymous gives me the benefit of being able to write what I want, I sometimes find myself wondering if I’m giving too much away or being too obvious. Will someone be able to tell it’s me is a question that I have to ask every single time I interact with people.

That is the biggest challenge for me, personally.

Other than that, I also feel that there’s never enough time to interact. There are so many interesting bloggers out there with stories to tell, I can never find enough time to get to know them personally.

What are some of your favorite author blogs and why?               

I have over 60 blogs on my blogroll and I love them all. It’s a mix of personal blogs, travelogues, fashion, and creative writing blogs.

What are your favorite books that you would recommend SIW family?               

I read a lot, as much as three books a week sometimes, but at the very core I’m a Virginia Woolf fan. And I don’t mean just her books. I have read her diaries – all six volumes – three times.

What advice would you give to young women readers of SIW who want to follow a similar career path as you?              

Being an independent thinking individual is important for men and women alike, so my advice to young women would be the same as my advice to young men – focus on who you are right now. Be who you want to be and stop trying to become what everyone else wants you to become.

of legacies

So what do you want to be when you grow up? She asks as you nibble on the cookie.

A housewife.

A housewife? Mrs. Gupta’s eyes widen. Why, little girl, don’t you want to grow up and be a doctor or an engineer?

No, I want to be a housewife. All I want to do is laze around all day and take care of my house and family. I want to learn to knit, too! But I won’t have any children. Children are a nuisance. They laugh. Your mother is visibly embarrassed. She mumbles something that sounds suspiciously like an apology, and continues to serve platter after platter of food, hoping it will erase all memory of her teenage daughter being so unambitious, not wanting to do anything significant.

After they’ve gone, she reprimands you for being cocky in front of her friends.

So you don’t want to be a doctor or an engineer? Look at Divya didi. Look at Anuj bhaiya. They’re earning so well! What will you do? Why, if you’re not going to work, no dreams to live for, what better use is there to your life? Might as well leave something behind in the world as legacy. But not even wanting children! Hey bhagwan! What am I going to do with this girl?

You’re sitting in a corner, sulking. You want to answer her questions. You want to tell her how much you detest picking up a profession just because women these days should be “independent”, whatever that means.

What your mother doesn’t understand is that you do have dreams, but they’ve got nothing to do with being a doctor or an engineer. All you want is to stay home and write, your head bent over a notebook, clutching a pencil and scribbling, scribbling, scribbling until you’re dead.

But she doesn’t understand. What she does not understand is that children will never be your legacy. They will belong to their father, not to you. Like you belong to yours. You took his surname, after all.

That’s not the legacy you want to leave behind.