rage against the machine

If I had to put my finger on the single most unproductive thing I do when I go to work, it has got to be sitting through mind-numbing meetings, frequently nodding (off) and pretending to care. Today was no different.

Until I heard Dudebro say: So, what do you guys think?

 

My mind went from “keep your head down” to “fuck this shit” so friggin fast.

So you don’t care what the women think?

I’m sorry, what?

I asked if you only wanted the opinions of the men in the room.

Of course not. I asked all of you guys.

Well, I’m not a guy. Neither are those two.

He looked mortified, and though I said I was only kidding, I really wasn’t and he knew it. Dudebro knows better. I have a reputation, and he’s fucking scared of me.

I was congratulated later by many people, for having “balls” and taking what is going to be “a giant leap for mankind”. These, btw, are the same people who go around rolling their eyes every time I speak up against their casual misogyny. Well, I understand. I’m that whiny “feminist” who just doesn’t have a sense of humor. I’m constantly complaining about how oppressed women are, when it’s just words.

But are they really just words?

It’s almost like if all this vocabulary just appears out of thin air; as though these things are said by unremarkable people, without any of these words having any meaning and place in any sort of systemic oppression.

But it does, doesn’t it?

Every time you address a mixed group as “guys” you’re erasing the women in it.

Every time you call someone “feminazi”, you’re equating women’s struggle for freedom from patriarchy with fascism.

Every time you jokingly call someone a “pussy”, you’re labeling women as the weaker sex.

You don’t need a degree in either linguistics or gender studies to know this, dudebro. Word have meanings. Use them carefully.

Honk if you agree.

Do you speak up against casual misogyny? Why do you think we treat men as the default human? What changes can we make to our vocabulary to make language less offensive to us “feminazis”?

 

 

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11 thoughts on “rage against the machine”

    1. When I saw this on my phone and commented, I didn’t realize I only had the very first bit of the article. I still love it, but you discussed a lot of serious issues here. Wonder wear “man”kind stemmed from, like Eden coming from the rib of Atom, or other such stories maybe? We can all do better to use responsible vocabulary.

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  1. Great piece Anna. I try and do my part always even in the casual friends talk. And every time I have been labeled as the torch bearer of women empowerment . No wonder I am not friends with them anymore but yes at work you have no choice but to work with some of those morons!! But I never give up and voice it 🤛🏻

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  2. I actually disagree with you. I don’t think “guys” is an appropriate term to use in the workplace, but i have no problem with people asking what “you guys” think even if there are women around. Language evolves and we evolve with it.

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  3. I’m guilty of it at times. 😦 But, now I understand that even pronouns can have consequences. Now that I’ve confessed, when will you post again? I hope that you are well!

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